With great pleasure, I announce that NicoleAndGwendolyn.com has been Black Listed from the dazzling WIAW Blog Parties. The writer and publisher of the oh-so-glamorous blog, fashionably known as ‘Peas and Crayons‘, is famous for hosting these gorgeous, weekly ‘Hug Your Veggies and Write Romantic Stories About Them’ social networking galas. This publisher has exercised the liberty of deleting my creatively written submissions without explanation, furthermore without regard to my questioning on the mystery!
My only suspicion is that my refusal to subscribe to the la-la-la smile and pretend to be the standard ‘healthy’ socialist school of thought was a turn-off? Perhaps I write too much about thinspiration for the chubby publisher’s taste? Former Bulimics who manage their consumption like a business are not allowed to attend the party? Is my philosophy too intimidating? Or perhaps she isn’t a fan of Gwendolyn’s pictures? That sucks!
Whatever is the case, of the hundred or so weekly submissions by other bloggers, I am so flattered to have been weeded out. Because I am a weed. A wild flower. I come and go as I please. I do what I want. How I want. And when I want. But I always follow the rules. It seems that despite her June Cleaver persona, our fatty at Peas and Crayons has not played very nicely.
Therefore, I shall host my own galas, moving forward. The kind that do not discriminate. The kind that are honest, raw, and accepting of individuality with regard to every piece of the human, including consumption philosophy. If I want to restrict, I shall. If I want to indulge, I shall. Nobody should be labeled because of their differences. And nobody, ahem WIAW party goers, should pretend to be veggie loving whores, just to be accepted to a lame party. One must find a party in which one truly fits. Do you fit at the WIAW? I don’t, any longer. Because it is a socialist organisation against persons who think rationally. NicoleAndGwendolyn.com is for the wild flowers, not for the fake bakers. At NicoleAndGwendolyn.com, we are the Violets and the Dandelions.
Thank you for reading this article. Please, enjoy viewing photographs of select dishes from my pretty week of consumption.
Monday Midnight Dinner.
Tuesday Breakfast.
Tuesday Lunch.
Tuesday Vino.
Tuesday Midnight Dinner.
Wednesday Coffee and Blog Break, in 40 Degree Temperatures!
Wednesday Early Afternoon Nourishment.
Kombucha Lova’ (said like Carrie Bradshaw).
Wednesday Lunch, Concocted by my Gorgeous Friend!
Wednesday Raw Dessert, also concocted by my friend!
Wednesday Dinner. Missing: Wine. Drank the bottle with a Friend. No Benefits. ;)
What do you think of my Black List membership?
© Nicole Marie Story Enterprises, LLC and nicoleandgwendolyn.com, 2011 – 2013.
Tell us more about that dessert! Do you have a recipe? I was also wondering what that last meal was- on my screen it looks like thousand island dressing- lol! As if you’d touch that!
Yay!!! I shall link you to the recipe upon returning home tonight! It’s so nice to eat delicious things like that! I’m not compelled to go overboard when I’m being watched by someone that I trust. ;) The thousand island (lol) is actually my third failed attempt at vegan raw cheese! I used 1.5 cups of raw cashews, the juice of 2 lemons, 1 pepper, and 1/4 cup nutritional yeast. And I only ate about half of what is pictured of the goop (which was about half of the total recipe) because it was NOT the gorgeous stuff that my friend concocts, and i was SO disappointed. I shall try again this weekend! For tonight, my lazy self is ordering sashimi! More later on the dessert! It tasted like a very cold macaroon! Nom nom nom.
This is the first time I’ve heard of “peas and crayons” and their WIAW link up. The fact that you got black listed says to me that you have stood up for something you believe in. I guess, they don’t like opinions and lifestyles that differ from their own. To that I say “who wants to be part of the herd anyway?” So blow a raspberry and wave your skinny wrist and fingers in Heidi Klum’ “bye” fashion like she does on Project Runway.
Oh!!!!!!!!! Love your feedback, girlfriend.
My favourite Heidi Klum moment ever!!!… The Real Me.
xo
To be honest, I think WIAW is lame and I’m glad I never jumped on board. Even more lame that you were a part of it, and were not able to link up. How whack. Owell, you’ve been done a favor and I’ll gladly join your party whatever it may be. Blog trends can be stupid, and I think you’re better off without WIAW. Seriously though, what a snatch.
Aw! I heart you!!! And honestly? I did it to earn more readership. And the ROI was bust. #BusinessGirl. :) xo
I can understand why they felt the need to ban you. Your diet screams anorexia and alcoholism, and you actually use the word “thinspiration” now. That’s incredibly triggering. You can be triggered even if you’re not a socialist! In the early days of your blog, you wanted people to get better. You seemed to care about making a positive difference in other people’s lives. Now you’re actively hurting others on many different levels. If you really are a “realist,” you will be able to comprehend that not everyone who disagrees with you does so because they’re a fat socialist; they do so because you promote restriction and excessive drinking.
If restriction and excessive drinking works for me, then why should I not promote it?
Because it doesn’t work for most people, and it doesn’t seem to be working for you. Your behavior gets steadily meaner and nastier, you’re talking about “thinspo,” and you’re getting blacklisted for being harmful to others. If it is truly working for you (i.e., everything’s cool with your family, you have a circle of genuine close friends, and you’re working toward finishing your education), that’s great. You have done something no other human being has ever done. But from the outside, you look sad and lonely and trapped in an eating disorder and a drinking problem, so I imagine the stuff you were posting was alarming to Peas & Crayons (or whatever it’s called) and that you got blacklisted because your overconsumption of booze and your underconsumption of food could be very harmful to others.
OMG, I could only read to “thinspo” and then you bored me!
I am off to drink more wine and to have fun!
Mwah! ;)
I truly hope you someday find your way to sobriety and a real life. I really do. Because this is heartbreaking to watch.
Aw! Don’t allow your heart to break, pure, kind, NY girl Sarah! ;)
Sarah? Is that the new Fiona?
” You have done something no other human being has ever done.”
Haha. I am a total anorexic/alcoholic, I fully admit it. And I get along with my family, have lots of friends (some from almost 30 strong–I’m in my 40s), and I finished my education a long time ago. I am a human being too, I swear! ;)
From almost 30 YEARS strong I meant to say. I am still friends with several pals from 8th grade. (As well as some from high school, college, my first jobs out of college, etc.)
I also like my parents and my sisters! And I’ve been with my husband for 13 years now (10 married).
I often think of you when I am pouring that first drink of the night (formerly morning until i started my business). I love your comments!!! Tonight, the first martini shall absolutely be in your honour, gf:)
Eating disorders of the restrictive/thin variety totally freak people out in this manner–you can’t be sexual! you can’t have friends! you can’t have human relations!–in a way unlike any other. Do people go around telling fat individuals the same stuff? Do they act surprised when fat people have friends and good family relationships? I know plenty of fatties who do just fine (have super cute spouses, even!), so why should a person with a thin problem be any different?
Because people are jealous of thin. Of course! So they criticise, until they become thin themselves. Remember Sable at Squat like a Lady? (Blog). Perfect case in point.
Honestly, my family and friends sometimes comment on my weight and tell me to chill on the skinny thing. And they also tell me to dial back my drinking at times too. But otherwise it’s not all doom, gloom, “you’re so fucked up I can’t be around you”–I socialize like anyone else with people I care about and enjoy. As I imagine obese people do as well. (I have a few friends who are very overweight–big deal, I could give a fuck what they weigh, it’s their business.)
YES.
My fam and friends are the same!
Besides, they know I’m not a stick in the mud once I’ve had a few:)
Props for being blacklisted lovely tiny sister! You know you’ve made it when that happens…BUT, I just poked around her blog (never read it before) and she is no Joseph McCarthy (just one more tiny fish in a big old pond of boring WIAW blahgers)! SO, you keep being you, dang it!
I made headlines at GOMI.
I’ve been black listed at WIAW.
Next up is Ms. America. ;)
I love you, big sister!!! :D
Being banned from your yoga studio, banned from healthy living blogs, and banned on GOMI are not honorable things. Those are embarrassments. You should look inward and take ownership of your role in these situations.
How do I not own my role in these situations? Or are you just speaking from your arse? Ha ha ha.
Do you act confused and laugh on purpose? Is that the way you deflect blame? Your hysteria and nastiness put you on GOMI and got you blacklisted on P&C. Please do not act as if this is an honor.
Correct. It is an HONOUR. ;) xoxoxoxo
Being banned from GOMI is certainly not an embarrassment (yeah Nicole!!). Being a GOMI harpy is an embarrassment.
When I went to the Peas and Crayons website last night after reading your post, I noticed her “art” is the same tired DIY crap that hurts my head because everyone does the same old same old. Nothing new to see there.
Congratulations again on being banned! Maybe she can send you a “Certificate of Banishment” framed in one of her DIY picture frames, ja?
To be honest, I did WIAW a couple times just to garner more readership as well, on my old blog. I also used to visit the link-up page to visit new blogs, and also because I like reading about peoples’ day-to-day eats (I still do, haha :P).
I think WIAW is a fun idea and Jenn is clever for coming up with it, but now I don’t feel like following a “trend” and would rather post things that interest me and the readers I currently have. If anybody new happens to stumble across my blog and continues to read it because they like it, that’s great, but I’m not going to try to search out new readers through blog link-ups just to get my stats up.
You’re such a young cute little tator tot, yet your comment is so mature and profound. I definitely think that my future gala(s) shall be interesting, creating a really nice platform for finding interesting blogs. And I shall strive for it to catch on, just like Jenn’s! But it shan’t be a socialistic venture. ;) Mwah to you, gf. xo
Tator tots are fat and greasy, ugh! Why would you call such a sweet young gal such a thing?! I’d imagine you’d be outraged if someone called you something similar, my dear aging poutine!!
—-What WIAW isn’t about—-
Comparison – Judgement – Restriction – Guilt
You failed to meet the guidelines. Simple as that. You proved that you are not a good fit on a healthy eating blog when you stormed off and called everyone fat. That’s a very immature response. I would imagine its a pattern in your life.
I suppose if someone wants to read you gush and coo about prepackaged dehydrated kale, they will have to visit your blog directly.
Ha ha ha!
Thanks, Fi. ;)
xo
You were doing really well at not calling anyone a fatty. It’s a pity you decided to start again.
There is fault in citing that which someone is?
Your opinion of what is fat is your opinion and not reality. You broke the rules, you got tossed out. Too bad for you.
I cite that you are a mess. Is that wrong?
Not wrong at all.
Opinions are subjective in every single way.
I think you’re a loser… looter… and lying cuntbag… but others disagree.
So just chill out. Be happy. And produce.
Mwah!
Lying cuntbag is your idea of pretty blog fodder? And you wonder why nobody wants you on their blog. You can spell it honor or honour, but the fact is you are classless and deranged.
I don’t wonder about anything except for the well being of NicoleAndGwendolyn, Gwendolyn first.
What about my article’s sarcasm did you not understand?
Mwah! ;)
It’s clear you are starving for attention. Your last two posts are desperate attempts for someone, anyone to notice you. I guess this is just another poor is me blog.
There was nothing sarcastic in your article. You are butthurt you got booted off P&C. And you wonder why? It’s because you are nasty and call your reader cuntbags. It’s because you are judgmental and restricting.
I also call others cuntbags, if they earn the title.
What makes you think that I reserve the title for only certain readers of my blog?
Patsy raises a great point. They don’t want restriction and judgment. You restrict and judge. Why did you even start posting there in the first place, since you’re promoting something they specifically stated they don’t promote? Was it just to be incendiary?
Aw, such a lovely analysis. Why are you obsessed with moi? My looks? My intelligence? Something else?
Nicole’s list of insults – 1. You’re fat 2. You’re a looter 3. You’re Fiona 4. You’re a cunt/whore/socialist 5. You’re obsessed.
Predictable.
Your inability to answer a simple question reflects poorly on your i.q.
How is ‘Fiona’ an insult? How rude of you!
You can’t answer a question. Perhaps you have autism. You function on a very low level. I’m worried.
Why are you worried about someone other than yourself?
Oh, I dunno, I personally am bored with WIAW. I just don’t care what others are eating. Even more than that, I don’t know why people are so obsessive with taking and posting pictures of their food after editing them on Instagram. Actually, it makes me irritated that there is unlimited cyberspace for the masses to post all that crap.
I follow blogs to find substance and stimulation, whether it’s my opinion or no, part of why I like venturing over to this site, (except when it is WIAW). You’re better off having been kicked off that frou-frou site (and I use frou-frou flippantly because I’m not a follower of it, purposefully ignorant to something called “peas and carrots”).
Well hot diggity fucking damn! I love your comment! Frankly, I’ve always been quite surprised that our WIAW owner created such a fiercly popular forum, given her frumpiness. I suppose it goes to show that even frumpy girls can produce! I am highly interested to observe the turn out for my up and coming blog gala. Thank you for your pretty comment. xo
Neah, I don’t think your links were deleted because of what you speak out about here. I mean if you follow some of those, as I’ve checked more than 10 at least – you see some crazy restricting chick that calls herself a fitness guru and eats like a bird.
I think it’s because you’ve chosen the wrong picks for your links. I mean to see some nudity among those salads and oat bowels. It’s provoking, and you would definitely be checked more than those boring veggie entrances. But I guess the rules are what you ate, not what you believe. I bet if you link up that delicious dessert as the picture I’ll be there for good.
Banning is probably just to cause a fuss or whatever, to make themselves feel good that they can ban those who don’t fit what they want at their party…if people didn’t agree with what you wrote, they couldve just scrolled on…people do think for themselves,lol, so really no need for the ban, but good that you took it and made it a positive anyway.
I look forward to your gala’s…no writing what you think others want to read, or writing to fit a niche, just writing truth as it pertains to you, whether it be right,wrong,healthy,not…it’s you and it’s real and that’s why I keep coming back. Jen and Heathcliffe (ps. Did you see Heathcliffe’s new outfit? It’s on my fb page) xoxo
I am searching for Heathcliffe’s fashion post right this very moment, and I do not see it!!! Will search again tonight and reply to the rest of your gorgeous comment then, too!!!!!!!!!
I like your WIAW :-) I’ll continue to read them.
So flattered. Thank you!!! :)
I don’t think you’re an alcoholic but you definitely need a shrink. And there’s no embarrassment in that. Lots of people have them. It’s a very NYC thing to do. Do you have health insurance?
Here’s a good therapist finder.
http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/prof_search.php
Believe it or not, I bet you can find someone who subscribes to your values and aesthetic.
For what do I need a shrink? For my values? How does that make sense?
I would think the main reasons would be to find balance in your relationships – with food, with people, and with yourself.
You’ve never thought about it?
Not even once?
It’s nice to have an objective third party. Friends can’t and don’t fulfill that role.
My balance is not acceptable to you?
You do what you want. I’m just an outside observer.
I always do.
Is it true that you currently live in a half way house for the mentally ill? I read that your parents paid for and made you move in to one with a caretaker – hence the “friend” who makes you your lunches?
Oh sugar pie, you are lovely. And I thank you for your readership. ;) xo
You do don’t you? I’m please you are getting help.
Is it my moral duty to provide comprehensive answers to your inquiries? ;)
No. That’s just how normal adults interact.
What is the definition of ‘normal’ again?
Ask your social worker at the halfway house when you go in for lunch.
And I think we’ve solved the equation. ;)
‘Haters gonna hate’ or whatever kids say these days.
I think we all already know you’re different than the other blogs that participate in WIAW. To be honest, I was quite suprised when I read your first WIAW post..I never thought you would participate in that kind of thing. I think the way you handle this is awesome..I myself am terrified of rejection, so I’d probably cry hysterically for a few hours, than binge, purge, repeat and pass out.
This sentence is absolutely wonderful: ” Because I am a weed. A wild flower. I come and go as I please. I do what I want. How I want. And when I want.” I hope to become a wild flower one day as well :D.
Omg I’m enamoured with your comment!!! The title of my first book in progress is ‘Violets and Dandelions’. And I’ve often thought that it would be a great sorority title so we can all belong to a little secret society of girls who relate. Thank you for making me smile:) Haters gonna hate, indeed. ;)
Sororities are for college girls, dear poutine, and you never finished! Not to mention you seem to have a hard time maintaining lasting relationships, and that’s what sororities are all about! Or are we just appropriating words again and making them mean whatever we want?
Hi Nicole, you are not a traditional healthy living blogger. Your biggest asset? You have opinions and you are willing to put light on the dark places. Other bloggers don’t and that is why their readerships will, in time, blow away with the wind.
I am glad WIAW booted you – it’s a compliment to you because none of those girls are doing anything original.
Minnie
Wow. Your comment just blew me away (and my social worker that was mentioned above, bahahaha). :) thank you for this so wonderful heart warming comment. It means A LOT. xo
No, Minnie, while our dear poutine is certainly not traditional, she was not booted because of her ‘original’ approach, she was booted because she is unhealthy! Facts are facts, and our dear poutine is most certainly unwell. Just because one doesn’t eat loads of veggies like all the others doesn’t mean their originality is healthy! It’s certainly nothing to aspire to. If I told you my diet consists of ants on a log, gravy, dried cranberries, and pinot grigio would you still celebrate my originality? Of course not!
I love the picture of the two dogs at the outside table.
That was a gorgeous coffee break:)
;)
Hmm…I honestly think that you at least deserved an explanation for having your submissions deleted. Simply out of politeness, however different your philosophy about food and ED may have been from dear Jenn of Peas and Crayons. She could have had her reasons for doing so, but that’s no excuse for being rude…I’m sure she would have offered an apology for not providing an explanation, if she had realised that it was only appropriate to do so. In either case, my guess is that she thought that a lot of her readers may not be emotionally strong enough to handle your very solid view points (which, by the way, I totally respect even if I cannot agree with all of them). I too, like you, believe in respecting strong opinions and acknowledging them, as long as they have solid reasons to back them up, even if I do not agree with them completely. I mean, that’s what makes this world go round, individuality, right? But I guess WIAW was just not a place for that. You know what, if it helps her readers in their eating not to see your bare beliefs, good for them. As for me (and other fellow readers of your blog), I will just keep following your blog and stand by your journey with Gwendolyn :)
I do love the ‘weeds’ analogy. I have always felt like a weed…then again, weeds tend to be survivors, persistant, lasting…whereas flowers die off as soon as the frost sets in.
As I said before, I don’t think you have done anything that could justify being banned that at least a dozen other bloggers in that linkup haven’t also done in a more covert way. For example, it’s so easy to pick out those who are restricting either to lose weight or maintain a very low one, but they’re not honest about their intentions so they’re allowed to get away with it. It’s all about putting up a front at these ‘parties;’ fake smiles and carefully constructed facades.
I can’t be bothered with WIAW any more when it’s just a cherade for pageviews and when the ‘host’ has treated one of my friends so badly. I was never one for parties anyway.
xxx
I was going to come here to hand you a shovel, but it seems you’re digging yourself into that hole just fine.
A suggestion, (which we all know you will either ignore or flip your finger at) You might want to go back and read some of the things people are trying to say to you in this post. There’s some good ones.
And you might want to do it during the brief moment you’re not drunk.
Nikki, you’re spinning.
Actually, I am spinning. Hardcore. One of my favourite local thin lady friends swears by it. “It’s how I lost all of my baby weight,” she said. ;)